How well it was done!

Three people were laying bricks. A passerby asked them what they were doing. The first one replied, "Don't you see I am making a living?" The second one said, "Don't you see I am laying bricks and making a wall?" The third one said, "I am building a beautiful monument."

Here were three people doing the same thing who had totally different perspectives on what they were doing. They had three very different attitudes about their work. And would their attitude affect their performance? The answer is clearly yes.

Excellence comes when the performer takes pride in doing his best. Every job is a self-portrait of the person who does it, regardless of what the job is, whether washing cars, sweeping the floor or painting a house.

Most people forget how fast you did a job, but they remember how well it was done.

If a man is called to be street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.

Story of a Tea Cup

"There was a time when I was just a dumb lump of red clay. Then one day my master came. He took me, brought me home, rolled and pounded me on a wooden table. Again and again, he poked his fingers into me until finally I yelled out: 'Don't do that! Leave me alone!' But he only smiled and gently said: "Not yet!"

Then, whoommmm! I was placed on a spinning wheel and suddenly spun around and around and around until I lost all my sense of direction: 'Stop it; don't you see that I'm getting sick? Quickly, take me from the spinning wheel!' But the master only nodded in understanding and quietly said: "Not yet!"

Then he placed me carefully into an oven. I never felt such heat. I yelled and knocked and pounded at the door: 'It is hotter than hell - I'm burning to ashes. Please get me out of here before it is too late.' I could only read his lips as he shook his head from side to side and silently pronounced, "Not yet!"

After I had cooled down he carefully picked me up, looked at me and brushed some dust away. Then he brought the colors! The fumes were horrible! 'Please... you have no mercy! Please, Stop it!' But he only shook his head and said: "Not yet!"

An hour or later he came back and placed a mirror before me and said: "Look at yourself!" And I did.What I saw amazed me. 'That's not me!' I said. 'It is too beautiful...' With a very compassionate voice he spoke: "This is what you are meant to be," and then he explained: "I know it hurt you when I rolled and kneaded you on the table. But if I had not gotten the air out of you, you would have broken. I knew you must have lost all your sense of orientation when I was spinning you. But without this you would never have come into this form. I know the fumes of the colors were intolerable when I painted you all over. But if I had not done that, you would not have had any color in your life."

God is the potter and we are the clay. He will mold us and will expose us to just enough pressures of just the right kinds that we will become a perfect piece of His liking.

Seek first to understand and then be understood

Essentially, “seek first to understand” implies that you become more interested in understanding others and less in having other people understand you. It means mastering the idea that if you want quality, fulfilling communication that is nourishing to you and others; understanding others must come first.

When you understand where people are coming from, what they are trying to say, what’s important to them, and so forth, being understood flows naturally; it falls into place with virtually no effort. When you reverse this process, however (which is what most of us do most of the time), you are putting the cart before the horse.

When you try to be understood before you understand, the effort you exert will be felt by you and the person or people you are trying to reach. Communication will break down, and you may end up with a battle of two egos.

Seeking first to understand isn’t about who’s right or wrong. It is a philosophy of effective communication. When you practice this method you’ll notice that the people you communicate with will feel listened to, heard, and understood. This will translate into better and more loving relationships.

Don't interrupt others or finish their sentences

When you interrupt someone, or finish his or her sentence, you have to keep track not only of your own thoughts but of those of the person you are interrupting as well.

This tendency (which, by the way, is extremely common in busy people), encourages both parties to speed up their speech and their thinking. This, in turn, makes both people nervous, irritable, and annoyed. It is also the cause of many arguments, because if there’s one thing almost everyone resents, it’s someone who doesn’t listen to what they are saying.

Once you begin noticing yourself interrupting other, you’ll see that this tendency is nothing more than an innocent habit that has become invisible to you. This is good news because it means that all you really have to do is to begin catching yourself when you forget. Remind yourself (before a conversation begins, if possible) to be patient and wait. Tell yourself to allow the other person to finish speaking before you take your turn.

You’ll notice, right away, how much the interactions with the people in your life will improve as a direct result of this simple act. The people you communicate with will feel much more relaxed around you when they feel heard and listened to. You’ll also notice how much more relaxed you’ll feel when you stop interrupting others. Your heart and pulse rates will slow down, and you’ll begin to enjoy your conversations rather than rush through them.

This is an easy way to become a more relaxed and loving person.

Develop your compassion

Compassion is a sympathetic feeling. It involves the willingness to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, to take the focus off yourself and to imagine what it’s like to be in someone else’s predicament, and simultaneously, to feel love for that person.

Compassion is the recognition that other people’s problems, their pain and frustrations, are every bit as real as our own---often far worse. In recognizing this fact and trying to offer some assistance, we open our own hearts and greatly enhance our sense of gratitude.

Compassion is something you can develop with practice. It involves two things: intention and action. Intention simply means you remember to open your heart to others; you expand what and who matters, from yourself to other people. Action is simply the “what you do about it.”

Compassion develops your sense of gratitude by taking your attention off all the little things that most of us have learned to take too seriously.

Silence your greatest critic - You!

Many people spend a great deal of energy arguing for their own limitations; “I can’t do that,” “I can’t help it, I’ve always been that way,” and thousands of other negative and self-defeating statements.

Our minds are powerful instruments. When we decide that something is true or beyond our reach, it’s very difficult to pierce through this self-created hurdle.

Suppose, for example, you tell yourself, “I can’t write,” You’ll look for examples to prove your position. You’ll remember your poor essays in high school, or recall how awkward you felt the last time you sat down to write a letter. You’ll fill your head with limitations that will frighten you from trying.

In order to become a writer or anything else, the first step is to silence your greatest critic --- YOU!

Power of Your Own Thoughts

It is important to know that there is a relationship between your thinking and the way you feel. It’s important to realize that you are constantly thinking. Don’t be fooled into believing that you are already aware of this fact! Think, for a moment, about your breathing. Until this moment, when you are reading this sentence, you had certainly lost sight of the fact that you were doing it. The truth is, unless you are out of breath, you simply forget that it’s occurring.

Thinking works in the same way. Because you’re always doing it, it’s easy to forget that it’s happening, and it becomes invisible to you. Unlike breathing, however, forgetting that you are thinking can cause some serious problems in your life, such as unhappiness, anger, inner conflicts, and stress. The reason this is true is that your thinking will always come back to you as a feeling.

Try getting angry without first having angry thoughts! Okay, now try feeling stressed out without first having stressful thoughts – or jealous without thoughts of jealousy. You can’t do it – it’s impossible. The truth is, in order to experience a feeling; you must first have a thought that produces that feeling.

Unhappiness doesn’t and can’t exist on its own. Unhappiness is the feeling that accompanies negative thinking about your life. In the absence of that thinking, the unhappiness, or stress, or jealousy, can’t exist. There is nothing to hold your negative feelings in place other than your own thinking. The next time you’re feeling upset, notice your thinking – it will be negative.

Remind yourself that it’s your thinking that is negative, not your life. This simple awareness will be the first step in putting you back on the path toward happiness. It takes practice, but you can get to the point where you treat your negative thoughts in much the same way you would treat flies at a picnic: You shoo them away and get on with your day.

Let others have the glory

There is something magical that happens to the human spirit, a sense of calm that comes over you, when you cease needing all the attention directed toward yourself and instead allow others to have the glory.

Our need for excessive attention is that ego-centered part of us that says, “Look at me. I’m special. My story is more interesting than yours.” It’s that voice inside of us that may not come right out and say it, but that wants to believe that “my accomplishments are slightly more important than yours.”

The ego is that part of us that wants to be seen, heard, respected and considered special, often at the expense of someone else. It’s the part of us that interrupts someone else’s story, or impatiently waits his turn to speak so that he can bring the conversation and attention back to himself. To varying degrees, most of us engage in this habit, much to our own detriment.

When you surrender your need to hog the glory, the attention you used to need from other people is replaced by a quiet inner confidence that is derived from letting other have it.

Become a better listener

Effective listening is more than simply avoiding the bad habit of interrupting others while they are speaking or finishing their sentences. It’s being content to listen to the entire thought of someone rather than waiting impatiently for your chance to respond.

In some ways, the way we fail to listen is symbolic of the way we live. We often treat communication as if it were a race. It’s almost like our goal is to have no time gaps between the conclusion of the sentences of the person we are speaking with and the beginning of our own.

Slowing down your responses and becoming a better listener aids you in becoming a more peaceful person. It takes pressure from you. If you think about it, you’ll notice that it takes an enormous amount of energy and is very stressful to be sitting at the edge of your seat trying to guess what the person in front of you (or on the telephone) is going to say so that you can fire back your response. But as you wait for the people you are communicating with to finish, as you simply listen more intently to what is being said, you’ll feel more relaxed, and so will the people you are talking to. They will feel safe in slowing down their own responses because they won’t feel in competition with you for “airtime”!

Not only will becoming a better listener make you a more patient person, it will also enhance the quality of your relationships. Everyone loves to talk to someone who truly listens to what they are saying.

Be aware of the snowball effect of your thinking

Your negative and insecure thinking can spiral out of control. Have you ever noticed how uptight you feel when you’re caught up in your thinking? And, to top it off, the more absorbed you get in the details of whatever is upsetting you, the worse you feel. One thought leads to another, and yet another, until at some point, you become incredibly agitated.

Needless to say, it’s impossible to feel peaceful with your head full of concerns and annoyances. The solution is to notice what’s happening in your head before your thoughts have a chance to build any momentum.

The sooner you catch yourself in the act of building your mental snowball, the easier it is to stop. You stop your train of thought before it has a chance to get going.

Real meaning of peace

There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But there were only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peacefully towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all. But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on the nest - in perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why?

"Because," explained the king, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace."

Lord Krishna says in the Bhagavad-gita (5.10):

One who is engaged in Krishna consciousness is then beyond contamination by sinful reactions, exactly as the lotus leaf, though remaining in the water, is not wet.

Real meaning of peace

There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But there were only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peacefully towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all. But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on the nest - in perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why?

"Because," explained the king, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace."

Lord Krishna says in the Bhagavad-gita (5.10):

One who is engaged in Krishna consciousness is then beyond contamination by sinful reactions, exactly as the lotus leaf, though remaining in the water, is not wet.

Person hindering YOUR growth is dead!

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written:
“Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral”.

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up.

Everyone thought: “Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!”

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: “There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: IT IS YOU”.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your centre changes. Your life changes when YOU change, YOU become Krishna Conscious, when YOU go beyond your limiting beliefs.

Who said outsourcing is going to end?

Bangalore: Be it the H1B visa price hike or the anti-offshoring policy that breezed past the U.S senate, India seems to be the offshoring abode for U.S companies to outsource despite all odds.

As per a survey done by Harvey Nash of a UK-based IT staffing and managed services firm, 90 percent of CIOs will be maintaining or increasing offshore outsourcing projects in 2010 and 2011. In the first quarter of this year, financial services companies reported 40 outsourcing deals, versus 26 in the previous quarter. Notable deals in early 2010 include Deutsche Bank's $114 million contract with GFT Technologies in which GFT will take responsibility for applications that handle payment transactions, online banking, credit card management and securities transactions; and the multiyear contract that U.S. Bank signed with TSYS for card processing services.

Cheap labor and quality output seems to drive U.S companies to India as they face simultaneous pressures of cost savings and software-centric innovation while competing with other companies.

Many U.S companies now believe in the need to be realistic about the potential for developing software within the country, recognizing that it is more cost-effective to "offshore" large-scale projects to nations such as India. US-based insurer Fidelity National Title Group Inc has decided to scale up its business by outsourcing to India eyeing an opportunity to cut the costs by 30 percent. Optimation, a Wellington IT firm formed an alliance with Indian outsourcing giant HCL which bore fruit spectacularly this year when the pair won a deal valued at about $100 million to develop and support software for the Corrections Department. "Large-scale builds are more economic offshore. Let's embrace that rather than try to resist." says Neil Butler, founder of Optimation.

India Inc. is also relieved by the US Senate's decision to block the anti-offshoring bill that sought to deny tax breaks to American companies moving jobs offshore. Infosys, TCS and Wipro, India's three big software outsourcing firms are set to regain double-digit growth rates during the second quarter, as customers in the US and Europe revive technology spending for addressing new markets, and start offshoring their IT and back-office projects to cut costs by nearly half. 62 percent outsource software-application development and 53 percent outsource software maintenance, points out this year's Global CIO survey. According to it, nearly half of CIOs - 48 percent - spend 10 percent of their IT budget on outsourcing.

Numbers speak all about the state of affairs. Data shows that U.S. banks' outsourcing activities are growing -- both offshoring to lower-wage regions like India via the multinational outsourcing firms (including Tata, Wipro, Infosys, HCL, IBM and Accenture) and through captive arrangements, as well as onshore engagements with U.S.-based service bureaus and outsourcing providers.

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When you say things in anger

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.

You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there." A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

அனுதின‌மும் ஆனந்தமாய் வாழ்ந்திட‌

ஒரு மனிதன் ஒரு நெடும்பயணம் மேற்கொண்டிருந்தான். அது அவன் வாழ்க்கைப் பயணம்.

நீண்ட தூரம் சென்றபின் தான் கவனித்தான். அவனுடைய கால் தடங்கள் அருகே இன்னொரு ஜோடி கால்தடங்கள். அவனுக்கு ஆச்சரியம். சுற்றும் முற்றும் பார்த்தான். யாரும் தெரியவில்லை.

சத்தமாகக் கேட்டான். "என்னுடன் வருவது யார்?"

"நான் கடவுள்" என்று அசரீரியாகப் பதில் வந்தது.

அவனுக்கு எல்லையில்லா மகிழ்ச்சி. 'கடவுள் என்னுடன் பயணம் செய்து வருகிறார்'.

பயணம் தொடர்ந்தது. அவன் அந்தக் கால் தடங்களைக் கவனிப்பதை நாளாவட்டத்தில் மறந்தான். சுகமாகப் போய்க் கொண்டிருந்த வாழ்க்கையில் பிரச்சினைகள் தலையெடுக்க ஆரம்பித்தன. சிறிய பிரச்சினைகள் பெரிதாயின. துன்பமும் துக்கமும் அதிகமாயின.

ஒரு கட்டத்தில் அவன் சமாளிக்க முடியாமல் தவித்த போது தான் அந்தக் கால் தடங்கள் நினைவு மறுபடி வந்தது . 'கூட கடவுள் இருக்கும் போதே இவ்வளவு துன்பமா' என்று தனக்குள் கேட்டுக் கொண்டவன் கால்தடங்களைக் கவனித்தான். அவனுக்கு அதிர்ச்சி காத்திருந்தது. அந்தப் பாதையில் ஒரே ஒரு ஜோடி கால் தடங்கள் மட்டுமே தெரிந்தன.

அவன் சற்றி பின்னோக்கிப் பார்த்தான் . அவன் கஷ்டகாலம் ஆரம்பித்த கணத்திலிருந்து ஒரே ஒரு ஜோடிக் கால் தடம் மட்டுமே தெரிந்தது. அவனுக்கு அழுகையாய் வந்தது. கண்ணுக்குத் தெரியாத அந்தக் கடவுளை அழுகையினூடே கேட்டான். "கடவுளே என் இன்ப காலத்தில் உடன் வந்து கொண்டிருந்தீர்கள், துன்ப காலத்தில் என்னைக் கைவிட்டுக் காணாமல் போய் விட்டீர்களே இது நியாயமா?"

கடவுளிடமிருந்து பதில் வந்தது. "மகனே, நான் உன்னைக் கைவிடவில்லை. உன் துன்பகாலத்தில் நீ பார்த்த காலடிச்சுவடுகள் உன்னுடையவை அல்ல. என்னுடையவை. இந்தக் கடின யாத்திரையில் நடக்க முடியாத உன்னைத் தூக்கிக் கொண்டு நான் தான் நிறைய தூரம் வந்துள்ளேன். அதனால் தான் நீ உன்னுடைய காலடிசுவடுகளைக் காணமுடியவில்லை...."

அந்த மனிதன் கண்களில் நன்றியுடன் வழிந்த கண்ணீர் நிற்க நிறைய நேரம் ஆயிற்று.

குற்றம் காண்பதில் மனிதன் சமர்த்தன். அவனுக்கு அதற்கு நிறைய நேரம் தேவைப்படுவதில்லை. கஷ்ட காலங்களில் உறவும் நட்பும் காணாமல் போவது போல கடவுளின் அருளும் காணாமல் போவதாக அவன் என்ணுவதில் வியப்பில்லை. சுமைகள் கூடும் போது, இறக்கி வைக்க வழி தெரியாத போது இருக்கவே இருக்கிறார் கடவுள், அவனிடம் வசவுகள் வாங்கிக் கொள்ள.

வந்த கஷ்டங்கள் நமக்குத் தெரியும். எத்தனையோ கஷ்டங்கள் வரவிருந்து, அவை இறையருளால் வராமல் தவிர்க்கப்பட்டிருக்கலாம். அவை நம் கவனத்திற்கு வராமலேயே போய் விடுகிறது. கடவுள் கணக்கு சொல்வதில்லை. எனவே எத்தனையோ உண்மைகள் நமக்குத் தெரியாமலேயே போய் விடுகின்றன.

துன்பங்களும், சோதனைக் காலங்களும் வரும் போது நாம் ஒரு பெரிய உண்மையை மறந்து விடக்கூடாது. எதுவுமே காரணம் இல்லாமல் நம்மிடம் வருவதில்லை. அவற்றில் சில நாம் சம்பாதித்தவை. நம் முந்தைய செயல்களின் விளைவுகள். நாமே வரவழைத்தவற்றை நாம் சந்தித்தே ஆக வேண்டியுள்ளது. மறுப்பதும் எதிர்ப்பதும் நியாயமல்ல. மற்றவை நாம் வளர, பக்குவப்படத் தேவையான அனுபவங்கள். நாம் கற்க வேண்டிய பாடங்கள். அவற்றைக் கற்றறிந்த பின்னரே, அந்த சோதனைத் தீயில் பட்ட பின்னரே நாம் புடம் போட்ட தங்கமாய் மிளிரப் போகிறோம். அவை நம் வாழ்வில் வரா விட்டால் நாம் சோபிப்பதுமில்லை.

கையால் மென்மையாக தடவிக் கொடுத்தே கல்லை சிலையாக முடியாது. இன்பங்கள் மட்டுமே வந்து கொண்டிருந்தால் நாம் பக்குவமடைவதும் சாத்தியமல்ல. உளிக்கு கல்லின் மீது பகையில்லை. உளியடிகளைத் தாங்காத கல் அழகிய சிலையாவதில்லை. கடவுள் என்ற சிற்பி நம்மைச் செதுக்கும் போது அழகிய சிலையாகப் போகிறோம் என்ற உணர்வுடன் தாங்கிக் கொண்டால், இது அர்த்தமில்லாததல்ல என்று புரிந்து கொண்டால் அந்த அடிகளும் நமக்கு ஆனந்தமே.

இன்னொரு விதமாகவும் சொல்லலாம். மருந்து கசக்கிறது என்று குழந்தை கதறியழுதால் தாய் விட்டு விட மாட்டாள். குழந்தை குணமாக வேண்டும் என்று அக்கறை அவளுக்கு அதிகமுண்டு. பலவந்தமாக மருந்தை குழந்தை வாயில் திணிக்கையில் குழந்தை தாயை ஒரு கொடுமைக்காரியாகக் கூட நினைக்கலாம். குழந்தை என்ன நினைக்கிறது என்பது தாயிற்கு முக்கியமல்ல. குழந்தை குணமாக வேண்டும் என்பதே தாயிற்கு முக்கியம். குழந்தைக்கு எது நல்லது என்பதை குழந்தையை விடத் தாய் நன்றாக அறிவாள். கடவுளும் அந்தத் தாயைப் போல் தான்.

இனி கஷ்ட காலங்கள் வரும் போது கடவுளை வையாதீர்கள். அவற்றைத் தாங்கும் சக்தியையும் அவற்றிலிருந்து கற்கும் புத்தியையும் மட்டுமே கடவுளிடம் வேண்டுங்கள்.

கஷ்டகாலங்களில் தைரியத்தையும் இழக்காதீர்கள். உங்களுக்கு நடக்க முடியாத போது சுமக்கத் தயாராய் கடவுள் உங்களுடனேயே இருக்கிறார் என்பதை நினைவில் வைத்துக் கொண்டால் வாழ்க்கைப் பயணம் சுலபமாகும். முடிவு கண்டிப்பாக இனிமையாகும்.

Why emotional drama?

The husband and wife gifted themselves a new car for their first wedding anniversary. They drove downtown, watched a movie, and finally returned home. They didn't have the garage facility. So the car was parked in the street. To their utter shock, when they woke up the next morning, the car was missing. The car was stolen. First car, first wedding anniversary gift, and they had enjoyed the car for just a day. The wife couldn't take it. With misty eyes she sank into the sofa. The husband too was a little jolted, but he said, “The car is lost. You can feel heavy about it. You can take it easy. Either way the car is lost. Then, why not take it easy.” She gave him a cold stare and the moment passed.

A logical question: When the car, how can anyone take it easy? But what else can you do? Feel heavy, if you want; take it easy, if you want - either way, after the emotional drama, what has to be done has to be done. The police complaint has to be lodged; the insurance has to be claimed… what has to be done has to be done.

You left the milk a little longer than required on the gas stove. The boiled milk is beginning to overflow from all sides of the vessel. Scream, wail, screech, get tensed, and let your BP to shoot up… after all the emotional drama, now what? You will switch the stove off, offload the milk vessel and clean the kitchen countertop. So, eventually what has to be done will be done.
Here we are not discussing about not being emotional, but about avoiding the dramatic emotional reactions. Emotions - yes. Emotional drama - no!

Emotional maturity is not about avoiding emotions, but it is about avoiding the emotional drama. Anyways, what has to be done has to be done. Then, why the drama?